Episode 185 - When ‘Good Enough’ Isn’t Enough

Are you feeling stuck in a job, relationship or city that no longer aligns with your true self? Discover a powerful perspective shift that transformed my life: Just because you CAN be content somewhere doesn’t mean you HAVE TO stay. In this episode, I explore why it's okay to leave a situation that feels “good enough” and pursue something that feels truly aligned with your unique needs and passions. Learn how to break free from settling and embrace the freedom to change your mind and create a life that genuinely fulfills you.

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Topics

• Challenging the belief that one must settle for "good enough"

• Recognizing the need for personal alignment and fulfillment

• Encouraging listeners to reach out for support and guidance

Links

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👉 Can't join us physically for the retreat? My online program ⁠⁠The Courage to Start New⁠⁠ is coming back this fall! Go to ⁠⁠selfgrowthnerds.com/courage⁠⁠ to learn more.

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Transcript

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Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:00:06]:

Welcome to the self growth nerds podcast. I'm your host Marie, a courage coach, creative soul, and adventure seeker. Since through hiking the Pacific Crest Trail in 2019, I'm on a mission to help you embrace your most confident self so you can achieve your dreams too. If you're eager for deep conversations, big questions and meaningful connections, join me on the quest to discovering how we can create a more magical and memorable life. Hello nerds. How are you? I'm doing really good. This episode is going to be a short one, but a sweet one. I am sharing the audio from a video I recorded last week and posted on Instagram that I want to make sure no one misses because the message in there is really important.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:01:00]:

I am talking about a belief that caused a lot of pain for me in the past. And I know that many of you need to hear this because you're holding on to the same belief. Okay. Before we jump in, quick reminder that if you wanna join the Brave New Path retreat, you have until September 1st to book your ticket. September 1st is the deadline. So if you've been hesitating, go to self growth dirt.com/retreat, and you can book your ticket right now. Alright. Enjoy the episode.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:01:38]:

I wanna share a perspective shift that was life changing for me. And I think it's gonna resonate with you especially if you feel stuck right now. In a job, in a relationship, in the place where you live, and you feel like you don't have a good enough reason to leave. So I used to believe that with the right mindset, you could be happy in any job or with any partner. You know within reason as long as it was not a toxic abusive situation. I thought I'm an adult other people are not responsible for how I feel. This is my responsibility and therefore I should be able to find contentment anywhere. But I had to realize that it's not because you can be happy somewhere that you have to stay.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:02:31]:

This is crucial. Let me give you a personal example to make sure that you really understand what I mean. With my ex there was, things that annoyed me like in any relationship. I was annoyed that he loved to play video games, but I knew it was not his job to change. He's allowed to enjoy video games. It was my job to manage my mind around that. And there was a bunch of little things like this that I had to work on accepting. If he could not fulfill my need for deep conversations, I looked elsewhere.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:03:08]:

I found friends that I could have these deep conversations with and I made a lot of progress. But towards the end, there was still a part of me, my inner knowing that was like no, no. This this is not for you. This is not where you're meant to be. And I was so annoyed. I was like I have done the work. Why can't this be enough? And there were a few turning points, but there's 2 main ones I wanna share with you. 2 things that I was told.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:03:39]:

1 by my coach at the time and one by my friend. So my coach at the time he said it was Chris Hale. He said Marie sounds like you've managed your mind around all of these things and now you have 2 options. You can just accept that you're going to manage your mind. You're gonna keep managing your mind around these things in this relationship, or option number 2, you can decide I don't want to anymore. I don't wanna have to manage my mind around these things, and so I'm going to leave. And what my friend said is Marie, maybe you could be happy in this relationship. But you're an emotional person, and it's okay to want to be with someone who sees and understands that part of you.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:04:29]:

In other words, it's okay to leave even though you know you could be happy. Or like plants. Think about plants. They can survive with the basics. I know from experience, you can give them some water, some light, and they're gonna be fine. But someone who really knows how to take care of a plant according to its specific needs, is going to help that plant thrive. The plant is going to look so much more healthy. We're the same.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:05:08]:

We're complex beings with unique needs. What kind of plant are you? This makes me think about moonrise kingdom when they go, what kind of bird are you? And what do you need in order to thrive? I know I could be okay in a 9 to 5 job. I I would survive. But in order to thrive in my career, I know that I need creative freedom. I need flexibility in my schedule. I need, to make a meaningful impact. I need depth. I need human connection.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:05:50]:

These five points are super important to me and they allow me to thrive in my job. I could survive in a 9 to 5 doing, I don't know, like I used to do. I could be a graphic designer working 9 to 5. I wouldn't die, but I wouldn't feel fulfilled like I do now. And why would I stay there? It's not a prison. It's not a life sentence. I can step out. I can raise the bar and decide, you know what? In this life, I don't just wanna survive.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:06:21]:

I don't just wanna be fine. I wanna I want to feel alive. I wanna feel aligned with who I am at my core. And this is the work I love to do. To help you figure out what you really want, who you really are, and what you need to thrive in your relationships, in your job, in the place where you live, in all aspects of your life. And then and then find the courage to let go of what is not aligned with that. So you can create an environment in which you're blooming. And disclaimer, this is not going to fix everything.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:07:10]:

The point is not that to have like a a life where every day is is perfect. That's not life. That's not what that's not that's not what it's like. But when you intentionally create an environment that supports your unique needs, it comes with a sense of inner peace. It comes with a certain kind of calm confidence and groundedness that to me is so worthwhile. So if you wanna do this work together, there's 2 ways right now. There's the brave and bold not brave and bold. That was my program before.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:07:53]:

There's the brave new path retreat that I'm hosting with my friend Rachel in October. It's 4 days of intensive workshops in nature in a high end beautiful chalet. All you have to do is fly to Montreal and there's gonna be a shuttle at the airport to take you to the retreat in the woods. And, if you cannot be there in person or if you cannot afford a retreat, you can sign up to my 8 week course called the courage to start new. It's a group program that starts September 10th. It's the most affordable way to work with me right now. It's only $280. So there's these 2, ways that we can work together.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:08:36]:

If you want to learn more about the retreat, you go to selfgropenourd.com/retreat and if you want to learn more about the program, you go to selfgropenourd.com/courage. Not only, am I going to help you figure out your what your unique needs are and what you want for your life, but I'm also gonna teach you how to manage the fears that rise to the surface when you decide to make a change. Because it's scary. It's scary because you're gonna need to let a lot of shit go. And that's hard. There's a lot of grief that comes with those big changes. So I'm gonna teach you how to manage that. So that you can go all in and and create an environment that feels like home.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:09:26]:

So that your life can feel like you instead of you trying to fit into a mold that you have outgrown. Okay? That's it for today. If you have any questions just let me know. DM me if you're not sure if this is for you let's just have a conversation. I would love to help. Basically, this this video, what I wanted to do here is, give you permission to raise the bar for yourself. Like my friend did. Like my coach at the time did.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:10:03]:

Not because you can find contentment somewhere that you have to stay. It's okay to want more. K? Giving you lots of love. Bye. Hey. If you love what you're hearing on the self growth nerds podcast and you want individual help finding a new direction for your life and developing the courage to make your dreams a reality, you have to check out how we can work together on selfgrowthnerds.com or message me on instagram@selfgrowthnerds. My clients say they would have needed that support years ago. So if you're tired of feeling like you're wasting your life, don't wait.

Marie-Pier Tremblay [00:10:46]:

Get in touch now and I cannot wait to meet you.